Does Parenting Ever End?
Our children do not magically pass from youth to adulthood and there is no end point where children no longer need their parents. Two vital areas of parenting adult children are about sex and relationships. Whatever the parents’ values regarding sexual behavior or forming relationships, they will want their children to have healthy and happy lives. They will want them to be able to choose a partner that will treat them well and they will want their children to be able to navigate the complex parts of living with and loving another person.
So why do many parents absent themselves from discussions about sex and relationships?
I suspect that the adolescent period where most children push back against parental authority and opinion has set up a hands off approach. This habit extends into the child’s adulthood. It could be that once a child leaves home for school or work, there is less time for conversation and connection. Adult children can also put their adult lives off limits to their parents.
The teen years might have lead to anger and fights that haven’t been resolved and some parents I know have given up, waiting for some longed for day when their adult children will realize the wisdom of their council. Yet, children in late teens and young adulthood still need our positive guidance during the crucial years of testing out relationships and sexual activity. [Read more…]