The guy sitting next to me at the sushi bar got his order I asked him about the sake drink he was having. The glass is put in a box (or masu) and then on a saucer. The host fills the glass until it overflows and then lets it continue into the box.
While various explanations abound, like it was to show off or it was meant to keep the sake from dribbling onto the floor or counter. The one I like is that to fill to overflowing can be considered a gesture of wishing abundance to the guest.
My companion said he liked it in comparison to how in Europe there is a mark on the glass and the bar will pour the drink just under the line. In other words, you are left feeling like you didn’t get your full measure.
I think the way we teach children about sexuality has the same flavor of coming up just under the line as if giving more will be too much for the parent. Children are naturally curious and when their questions aren’t answered they will probably feel cheated. They will wonder about the motives of their parents, who might be quite generous in other areas.
So, think about what you are wishing for your children when you deliver their sex education. Do you want them to feel that they are full of knowledge? Do you want them to understand the fullness of your values? Do you want them to trust you in this crucial area and to know they can come to you when they have questions?
Then place the beautiful vessel they are in a protective receptacle that lets them be filled with the abundance of how they can achieve a happy, healthy, and enjoyable sex life. Fill them with knowledge, acceptance, and joy about what sexuality can be. The return will be immeasurable.