My Personal Experience and Mission
I became a parent at the age of 44 when I took in two girls ages 10 and 11. Within the first month I got my first question about sex! Luckily I had enough training to field it, but in my experience most people haven’t learned the skills to handle the tough conversations about bodies, sex, drugs, or dating. Many adult clients come to see me for help because they can’t even talk to their own partners about sex.
My mission is to help good people get skills to approach any difficult topic. I offer parent coaching for parents needing immediate assistance. My new book, Project Parent: Preparing Yourself for Your Child’s Sex Education, is another way to increase skills that improve confidence and communication. There is also a Project Parent Facebook group to create a community of parents who can freely talk about the tough topics, and to get support and feedback. I am here to help you be the parent you aspire to be.
My Background and Training
My entire career has primarily been focused on understanding human sexuality. In my academic career of over 30 years I have taught thousands of students how to critically think about a wide variety of topics in psychology and child development. In my clinical work I have worked with people of all ages with all kinds of issues. I have specialties in sex therapy and couples therapy, and am a trained parent coach.
For many years I was a trainer for local foster family agencies in topics as diverse as psychopharmacology, sexuality, health psychology, and preparing children for success with their own therapy. In my professional life as an educator, researcher, and therapist I have seen firsthand the real problems that can develop for children, couples, and families when they have inadequate preparation for the complex parts of life like sexuality and relationships. In my personal life, I have trained as a facilitator for the Our Whole Lives (OWL) program of lifelong sex education jointly developed United Church of Christ and The Unitarian Universalist Association. I want to bring all this experience to parents like you.